A Birthday to Introspect

It was my Birthday yesterday. A very important one as I am stepping into the last bit of my twenties. Before I get into the details, do you know that I am a cusp, and that too of contradictory zodiac signs? Yeah! If interested, just google Leo-Virgo cusp and you’ll see. I need a Nobel Prize for handling myself! 😛

So I have these mixed emotions coursing through me. I am excited to know how the next decade will be, but also, dreading it. The fact that I couldn’t accomplish the things I thought I would by the time I was 30, kind of puts me down. I do have one more year though. I am super relieved that I finally cleared CA, an ordeal in itself.

Be that as it may, either the life lessons have increased recently or I have begun to observe life more. There are a few things that the last few months, weeks and days including this day taught me. Let me share them here:

  • If you have faith in The Power, your faith along with your efforts will give you what you need. Sometimes, ever so miraculously. (The way I cleared CA)
  • Sometimes, our desires aren’t fulfilled. Not attaining our desires will encourage us to explore new paths and discover other potentials (I became a freelance writer and an entrepreneur as my CA course delayed).
  • There will always be two kinds of well wishers in our lives – the ones that ask us to stay put/hang on until we die and the ones that ask us to quit/try something else. Either could be right. But Listen to your body, mind, heart and soul. (I was asked to quit CA as much as I was asked to keep writing. They were well-wishers, but they weren’t me.)
  • It is difficult to take the path less trodden, but you will be one among the few who experiences life in a different light (Let’s just say, being 29 and unmarried is difficult, but interesting).
  • Even if you feel worthless, get up and get some work done. If you just lay there, you will in fact be unproductive and worthless. (A reminder to myself to face those goddamn interviews.)
  • Always have a hobby. If you don’t have one, start doing random things and find an activity you enjoy. It helps you clear your head, enjoy your own company and appreciate yourself better.
  • Your Birthday is the right time to take stock of people in your lives. More often than not, you will see the difference in your well-wishers. (Between a Birthday filled with Chocolates & gifts and another with none of those, a close friend decided to leave.)

Now on a lighter, yet important Birthday note:

  • HBD sounds like an official acronym sent by a boss who is too busy to sit down and talk to you, and treats you like a vending machine that dispenses work. If you want to send a Birthday wish to someone, take the time to type the words fully or simply don’t wish. That would be much better. Honestly 🙂
  • Friends to whom I haven’t spoken in years, called me. That was heart warming. I haven’t spoken to them in such a long time and yet they decided to take out their phone, dial my number and wish me. I have never done that! I should. I will, from now on. 🙂
  • I learnt today that I could use the FB Birthday reminders to bond with people. I could give a personal touch to my wishes so that they smile seeing them.
    I barely wish people seeing FB reminders because I remember the birthdays of the important people in my life. Besides, I always thought that FB wishes were impersonal and mechanical. But some wishes today genuinely made me happy. Most of them were simple Birthday wishes, but in complete sentences. They struck a chord because the well wishers had taken the time to type out those words and make them more personal.There were some others that made my day. Here are two of them:1.PNG24.PNGThough one-sentence-wishes, the personal touch in them is unmistakable. I will, from today, make a difference in the few Birthday wishes I send out.

As for today, I feel good having spoken to a lot of old friends, and having met up with a couple of them from my innermost circle. It feels good to be remembered and to be loved. It inspires me to appreciate and love people better. 🙂

Happy Birthday to ME ❤

With Love,
~Myself ♥


21 thoughts on “A Birthday to Introspect

  1. Happy Belated Birthday and Thanks for putting up these learnings. It is easy to fall for what people say, but being strong in those circumstances defines us.

    There is no one but us who can achieve what we want to do and somehow we know about it too!

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  2. Wishing you a very happy birthday and many many more in the years to come. Enjoy the 30s. They are when I truly came into my own. I’m on the verge of 40 now and it’s been a fascinating journey. Love your lessons 😊

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  3. Hey Ranjini, welcome to a new age! You are gonna rock and rule it! I absolutely loved this from the heart post. You are like the rest of us a mass of contradictions. Isn’t that way more interesting being mundane and predictable?! I agree that at the end of all wishes, it takes your own insight to take that leap ahead or stay put. Congrats on clearing CA, simply awesome. I wish you loads of happy times and importantly great memories in the coming years. Love and hugs.

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    1. Thank you thank you. You guys are positively making me excited about the 30s now. 😀 Yes definitely! Like a friend told me yesterday, without the strangeness and contradictions, life is boring. 😀


  4. What a lovely post, Ranjini. An introspective one and it reveals your great sense of humour. Clearing the CA is a great success. I know how difficult it is as I’ve seen my cousin struggling with it for quite a long time 😀
    And, welcome to the gang of thirties… ❤ Life begins after 30! ( I'll repeat the same after reaching 40, 50… 😛 )

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  5. Shall I wish, ‘HBD!’ 😀 I rather not! 😀 Happy B’day! Hope you had a great day and wishing for more strange days, months, and years ahead 😛 And also hoping to meet you soon 😉

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    1. Hahaha 😀 So I did teach you something 😛 Just kidding. Yes I did have a wonderful day. We will meet in good time. The next Bangalore trip I had planned didn’t happen. But I get this feeling that it will happen sometime this year. 😀


  6. So my wishes were in advance in Parthi 😂. Congratulations CA 😃
    Many times after we met recently, I thought of pinging you but couldn’t.
    Anyways All the Best dear. Rock on.

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    1. Thank you so much Sowmya 😀 That Parthi trip is what made this possible. Swami’s power. I will ping you. We should keep in touch. 🙂


  7. Happy Belated Birthday to one of the few lovely girls in my life possessing huge will power! Congratulations on your success dear both CA and ur blog and also it is so true that there will be more ppl to advise you on ur way up the success ladder… Hear them all is my way of dealing them as no one can force anything on us…. I hear what they have to say and accept or do only what I think is best… Go ahead with ur beautiful attitude and remember think of what you have achieved and cherish that….
    Once again Happy birthday girl!

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    1. Thank you for this heartwarming wish from the bottom of your heart Smisha. Some wonderful people aren’t always by your side, but they have their best wishes, good thoughts and words of encouragement always. You are one among them, always encouraging and giving that push. Thank you so much Smish. Love you loads :*


  8. A very happy belated Ranjini; I love being flooded with bday messages. Be it phone calls or FB messages – I love the thought behind it that someone remembered me today!!
    Wish you a very joyous journey ahead; whatever you choose it to be and wherever it takes you 🙂

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